Are you a typical careeer girl?You are well educated,ambitious,informed and engaged.All are seemingly good things,at least until you get married.

Many factors contribute to a stable mariage,including the marital status of your spouse’s parents(folks with divorced parents are significantly more likely to get divorced themselves),age at first marriage,race,religious bliefs and socio-economic status.And,of course,many working women are indeed happily and fruitfully married — it’s just that they are less likely to be so than nonworking women.And that ,statistically speaking,is the rub.

While everyone knows that marriage can be stressful,recent studies have found professional women are more likely to get divorced,more likely to cheat and less likely to have children.And if they do have kids,they are more likely to be unhappy about it.A recent study in Social Forces,a research journal,found that women even those with a “feminist” out look – are happier when their husband is the primary breadwinner.

Many independent Chinese women like to earn their own bread,even if their husbands are already bringing home the bacon.But a recent survey suggests that such women find more joy from relationships,rather than successful careers.

The 2007 Career Women’s Survival Reprt was released by Sun Culture Multimedia last month.About 73 percent of the  7,000 woment surveyed in Beijing,Shanghai and Guangzhou said they would choose survey also found that 77 percent define happiness as “enjoying a relationship.”But striking a balance between career and family can bring callenges to the woman’s career advancement.

Both physical and emotional difference can prevent some women from taking tough positions.But family life is often the main hurdle for Chinese career women.Despite thes callenges,however,some experts believe it’s reasonable for some women to want to be breadwinners.

Women should have the freedom to decide if they want to stay at home or work to support the family.Everyone has a different interpretation of what it means to find self-worth.Traditionally,we tend to regard the family as the cell unit of society.Some membrs have always been expected to make sacrifices for it.But,it really does’t matter who earns more.Economic independence and personal choice is essential for both sexes in the family.

Many single expat women quickly find that most foreign dreamboats have already sailed, and their chemistry with local men rarely stirs the right mix for a love potion.

“The dating scene in Beijing is sad,” said 27-year-old Kate Minnikin, of Brisbane, Australia. “I know a lot of expat women who are single, but I don’t know one foreign man who’s single.”

Minnikin, a research and development specialist for a human resource development company who has lived in China for two years, said the reason there aren’t many available foreign men is simple: “There are a lot of Chinese women; they’re available, and they have a lot to offer.”

The dating problem of China’s forlorn foreign females has become a hot topic on online forums for expatriate such as http://www.thatsbj.com and http://asiaxpat.com. Threads with titles such as “Why foreign women will NEVER have a dating scene” and “How can a woman find a man?” are becoming increasingly popular.

“I have lived in Asia for about four years now and know how tall blondes are treated by a lot of the men here,” said MTGirl, who posted on a “Frustrated woman” thread on thatsbj.com’s Love and Dating forum. “Although that has not turned me into a man-hater, I find the situation frustrating.”

Offline, MTGirl is Juanita Hartman, 33, who came to Beijing from Ellensburg, Washington, as a research fellow studying Chinese history at Peking University.

She says that even though foreign men in Beijing are available, she has seen that they are likelier to seek local women.

“It really doesn’t bother me that they overlook expat women,” Hartman said. “What bothers me are the looks of disdain I get when I’m out and about.

“Men look away when eye contact is made,” she said. “I’m not drop-dead gorgeous, but I’m not butt-ugly, either.

“Living in China for about four years has given me great insight to who I am and what I want. Part of that self-discovery has been that I haven’t had a steady boyfriend and had to struggle through comparing myself to these beautiful, petite Chinese girls.

“I am 176 centimetres tall and often felt like a bull in a china shop – no pun intended. I have come to terms with the way I look and the way I am built. I am more confident because of this experience.”

For China’s lonely “laowai” ladies, it seems the problem is a matter of not only the quantity of men, but also the quality.

Many foreign women complain that the fabric of the men who are attracted to the expatriate lifestyle is too often different from that of good dating material.

“Beijing seems to attract only certain types of guys: English-teacher types straight out of college who just want to have fun, ladder-climbing executive types and a bunch of weirdoes,” said Emily Patterson, 23, of Cleveland, Ohio, who works as a reporter for a Chinese magazine in Beijing. “You don’t want a college guy. Maybe the executive type is already married, busy or boring. And of course, you don’t want to date a weirdo.

“At home, maybe you meet a hundred nice, normal, single, socially, capable guys, and you have feelings for one or two. Here you meet five normal guys, and there’s such a small chance that one of them is the one you want.”

Hartman agrees: “I think the main problem in Beijing is that most of the men here I wouldn’t touch back home, so why would I here?”

Like many expatriate women in China, Hartman believes that while “a few” laowai guys in China are worthwhile men, capable of establishing solid relationships, many come here to get a badly needed ego boost.

“The majority of men come here because they have issues back home … or they just can’t get a woman back home for a number of reasons,” she said. “They come here because they become a big fish in a little pond; they become very important and sought after.”

For these reasons, these women see the pool of single, dateable foreign men more as a small puddle. And they don’t consider dating locals a viable option.

“Women need to communicate more, so for women who don’t speak Chinese, we don’t have as many options as men,” said Minnikin.

There are cultural barriers, as well.

“Most Chinese guys are really shy,” Patterson said. “They work really long hours and don’t come out to bars and parties, which is where you usually meet people.”

Josh Bernstein, 21, of Phoenix, Arizona, has organized an informal singles group and has seen first-hand the difficulties faced by Western women interested in Chinese men.

The singles party he hosted a week ago attracted more than 20 Chinese women, four Western women, 10 foreign men and two Chinese men.

He said that while the foreign men ignored the Western girls, the Chinese men struck up conversation with them. But in the end, it was only talk.

“These foreign girls, even though they talk to the guys who they are interested in and think are interested in them, the Chinese guys seem to be too shy or too worried about saving face to make a move,” Bernstein said. “They’re afraid of making a mistake because of cultural differences. A lot of Chinese guys don’t know about foreign girls and don’t know how to approach them.”

Hartman, for one, said she has given up on the dating scene, and believes it’s for the best.

“I came to the conclusion that whatever happens will happen” she said. “I could find the love of my life here and have a great story to tell, but I could also return home alone.

“Either way, I am still learning about myself, and isn’t living abroad all about the learning experience?” (via ~)

Just when Donnie wasn’t getting any love in Making the Band 4 studios, Diddy throws him off the wall and out of this world producer Seven. Any guy who brings candles into the recording studio and fills it up with smoke before being able to work, is out of this world in my book.

Despite the supernatural settings, Seven flips a track called “The Rain” for Donnie to try out and damn… it’s good!

But when you’re involved in online dating, you inevitably get to the part where the other person wants your phone number. Many people feel that in between the online connection and the face-to-face meeting must lie a medium ground and they resolve that with the phone conversation. The phone chat lets you put a voice with the name, weed out people whose conversational style gives you the creeps and make the whole thing a little more “real” so you’re both more likely to show up.

So the phone conversation before the first date is a good thing. Except if you hate the phone. I’ll openly admit that I’ve never met people who would probably have been good dates because they insisted on a phone conversation first and I didn’t want to bother. The way I see it, if they really place that much importance on the phone, they can find a gal who likes to talk their ears off. It just ain’t for me.

But I’ll also admit that my approach is somewhat extreme. Most people who don’t like phone chats will find that a really quick conversation to confirm meeting times and places isn’t so bad. So, I don’t really think that the pre-date phone conversation is necessary. But I do think that most people will find the dating transition to go more smoothly if they do the phone thing every now and then.

I just don’t take my own good advice.

Note: If you want to do the phone thing but don’t want to give out your number, try using CallDigits. This service gives you an anonymous number for the purpose of dating.

Question of the Day: Is it a deal breaker if someone from online won’t talk to you on the phone?

Read more here

Here’s your chance to be on live television. MTV has released a site companion to their popular TV dating show, “NEXT.” Just like the real deal, NextorNot.com allows you to flip through thousands of profiles and hit the “I Like” button if you find the person attractive, or “Next” if you don’t.

Each user will rack up points based on the amount of time people spend viewing their profiles. Hitting “I Like” will add an extra five minutes to their overall total. After each 24 hour period, the user with the most overall viewed time will be crowned Hottie of the Day and featured of MTV!

The New York Times is reporting that women in their 20s with steady jobs in big cities — New York, Chicago, Boston and Minneapolis — make more money than their male counterparts. This is fabulous news, but unfortunately these same women are finding it hard to date men who earn less than they do.

From the article:

They would say, “Wow, you’re so sophisticated,” she recalled. A first look at her apartment, a smartly appointed studio in a full-service building in TriBeCa, would only reinforce the impression. “They wouldn’t want me to see their apartments,” she said, because they lived in cramped surroundings in distant quadrants of Brooklyn or the Bronx.

One of them, she said, finally just came out and said it. “Look,” Ms. Hess recalled him saying, “it makes me really uncomfortable that you make more money than me. I’m going to put that out on the table and try to get over it.”

But he never got over it, she said.

“The sad thing is that I really liked the guy,” she said. “If that hadn’t been an issue with him, we’d probably still be dating.”

Why are so many men threatened when the woman is the breadwinner in the relationship? Tami can be my sugar momma any day!

You’re cute, you’re hot, you’re sexy, you’re fun, you have a cool personality and a big circle of friends — in other words, you’re the whole package. Then why the hell can’t you meet a guy? Maybe it’s because you have a stale routine.

Step 1 – Venture Out

There are plenty of good men in this world, you just need to create opportunities to meet them. Venture out from simply flirting at the same gym or bars, and introduce yourself to new activities where single men are likely to be.

Tip: Break out of your comfort zone and head down to a convention for Star Wars junkies or game night at the local sports bar. These places attract amazing amounts of testosterone, which increases your chances of meeting that ever-elusive critter, the single male.

Step 2 – Catch His Attention

The goal is to show him you’re available without throwing yourself at him. Sexy yet subtle signs can work wonders. A little smile, a glance in his direction, and a friendly touch like placing your hand on his forearm is usually more than enough to cue a guy that you’re interested.

Tip: When you’re out partying, avoid staying in a pack which makes you unapproachable. Men have a great fear of being rejected, and an even bigger fear of rejection in front of others. Take a step away from your overprotective posse waiting to give him the once-over, and work different parts of the room on your own. Flying solo will make you much more approachable. To be on the safe side, be sure to have a rendezvous point with the girls you came with.

Step 3 – The Chase

The key is for him to suspect you’re interested, without knowing for sure. Men love a chase, so give it to them!

Tip: Never make yourself too available. Although he’s a welcome addition into your life, you need to make it clear that you’re independent and still have friends to attend to. That means your date with the girls this Friday night is still on!

Step 4 – Don’t Forget Who You Are

Guys want an independent woman that has a life of their own. Ladies, this means take care of yourself, pay attention to your personal style and find time to hang with your fabulous friends and family.

Tip: No man wants a girl that doubles as a shadow. It’s suffocating, and is a surefire way that’ll get you kicked to the curb.

Step 5 – Together Forever

Men want a woman who’s positive, upbeat, and simple blast to be around.

Tip: Although there are different things that make men happy — when all is said and done, and the honeymoon stage on cloud nine has past, all men really want is love… and maybe a bit of sugar too!

Step 1 – Finding Her

You always hear weddings are the best place to find hot single women. Is it true? Of course it is. The sight of seeing two people completely in love gets women’s hormones raging. Offer her a drink at the bar, and you’re off to a good start.

Other places to find hot single women:
Dance clubs, birthday parties, supermarkets, bookstores, outlets, libraries, grocery stores, they’re everywhere… Open your eyes and use the force!

Step 2 – Stand Out

The first step is being noticed. If the girl you’re after is truly as hot as you think she is, she’s probably being chased by several guys already. It’s time to separate yourself from the pack, and be noticed. You might not be able to change your mug (without costly plastic surgery), but you can change your appearance. Here’s some easy ways to do so:

No need to drive the hottest car in the hood, but a nice ride can win you some bonus points. Remember to clean the car and vacuum the interior before your first date. Nothing kills the mood better than old smelly trash from McDonald’s.

Money to Burn: Ferrari F430, Bugatti Veyron, Mercedes Benz SLR
On a Budget: BMW M3, Porsche 997, Lotus Elise, Audi RS4
Broke as a Joke: VW Golf R32, Honda S2000, Nissan 350Z, Audi A4

Get a watch. Why would you need a watch when your cellphone tells time and does a gazillion other things? Because a watch is a statement about your personal style. It also lets her know that time is important and being on time matters to you.

Money to Burn: Rolex, Cartier, Omega
On a Budget: Tag Heuer, Tumi, Movado
Broke as a Joke: Seiko, Timex, Diesel, Swiss Army

The most expensive item in your closet should be your shoes. They’re the foundation of every outfit, and she’s bound to check them out, so they better look good.

Money to Burn: Bally, Canali, Gucci
On a Budget: Cole Haan, Ecco, Ralph Lauren
Broke as a Joke: Sketchers, Kenneth Cole Reaction, Adidas, Puma

Step 3 – The Chase

Women love to be pursued. Lines are bad. The only one you should be using is “Hi, My name is…” Approach her with confidence, because women have a sixth sense for weakness. Don’t talk about your job, or how much you make. It’s the last thing she wants to hear (unless she’s a grubby leech, in which you’ve probably chosen the wrong girl). You’re trying to get the girl of your dreams, not a job at Google.

Keep the conversations relevant to the moment – the band that’s playing on stage, the clown in the funny looking hat, or a current movie that’s out. Keep the conversation less personal and she’ll feel less threatened. The is goal is to let her know you’re trying to get to know her and not into her pants.

Nice guys always complain that they can’t get the girls. Jerks get the girls. I admit they do. Jerks have a unique way of standing out, but they don’t last very long.

The key is to show her you’re confident without being arrogant. Stand up straight, and look into her eyes when she’s talking. Be a Gentleman. Help an old lady with her groceries to the car, or give up your seat on the bus to a single mother and child. Thoughtful and sweet guys give her hope that chivalry isn’t dead.

Step 4 – 9th Inning

A text message goes a long way after a date. Following a wonderful night, a simple text message to her cell phone with something as sweet as “goodnight, sweet dreams.” will have her melting in your arms. Follow up with a call two days later. Ask her how her days are going and mention something funny about the first time you saw her. This is your opportunity to ask her out on a second date.

When you see her again, compliment her, and make it something other than her looks. She’s heard a thousand times how pretty her eyes are. Tell her how funny she is, if she likes to crack jokes. If she’s trendy, tell her how hot her fashion sense is. Genuine compliments will be engraved in her memory forever.

Step 5 – Lock Down

When you’re out at the ice cream shop, prove that you’ve been paying attention by ordering her favorite flavor without asking. Drop off a cup of the Starbucks Mocha Frappuccino she likes so much on her lunch break at work. It’s the little things you notice, that show her how much you adore and want to be with her. Plus, it’ll make her putty in your hands.

Keep this up, and the girl of your dreams will be yours!

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